Getting More Confident 2 Be More Confident

Confident Parents create Confident Children.This blog is about helping parents work towards getting more confident so that their children can learn to be more confident

Thursday, September 14, 2006

When teenagers decide upon merit.

My daughter shared something with me last night that left me completely moved to tears! She is now 15 and in Year 10 at High School. This is the start of her exams, in England known as GCSEs. One of topics she is studying is Business Studies (can't wait to make her Director of Marketing!!!). Somehow she ended up on the register of two different classes, so she was told to choose which one she wants to me in. She hangs out with a crowd of 4 other girls, two of them where in the other class, none of them are in the class she is currently in. She opted to stay in her current class for two reasons:

1. She was happy with the teacher she has
2. She realised that being in a class with her two friends will be distracting for her

Rather than make a decision based on where her friends are, she went for what would be best for her education.

Makes a mum proud :0)
Does Your Child Love EMO?

Emo, it sounds like a cuddly toy that a child would love, but according to my teenaged daughter (15 today!) an emo is a teenager that listens to "emotional" music. Apparantely inherent with being an emo is the need to slit your wrist. Have you heard of anything so incredible?

When we are going to start teaching about the value of life at school, not religion (I am not bashing religion here in case you thought about leaving a comment :0) but about the "self" about the connection everyone has with themself. Know thyself. When you truly do you would never want to harm yourself in this way.

I send love and light to all teenagers struggling with who they are and searching for something that would give them great joy, if only they were willing to look within
I know we love our children. I know we will do anything to make them happy. In fact if you ask a parent what they want for their child then the majority will say "to be happy". This is a story that is so amazing, true dedication to the love of our children.


"Strongest Dad in the World
From Sports Illustrated, By Rick Reilly]

I try to be a good father. Give my kids mulligans. Work nights to pay
for their text messaging. Take them to swimsuit shoots.

But compared with Dick Hoyt, I suck.

Eighty-five times he's pushed his disabled son, Rick, 26.2 miles in
marathons. Eight times he's not only pushed him 26.2 miles in a
wheelchair but also towed him 2.4 miles in a dinghy while swimming and pedaled him 112 miles in a seat on the handlebars -- all in the same day.

Dick's also pulled him cross-country skiing, taken him on his back
mountain climbing and once hauled him across the U.S. on a bike. Makes taking your son bowling look a little lame, right?

And what has Rick done for his father? Not much -- except save his life.

This love story began in Winchester, Mass., 43 years ago, when Rick
was strangled by the umbilical cord during birth, leaving him
brain-damaged and unable to control his limbs.

"He'll be a vegetable the rest of his life," Dick says doctors told
him and his wife, Judy, when Rick was nine months old. "Put him in an
institution."

But the Hoyts weren't buying it. They noticed the way Rick's eyes
followed them around the room. When Rick was 11 they took him to the
engineering department at Tufts University and asked if there was
anything to help the boy communicate. "No way," Dick says he was told. "There's nothing going on in his brain."

"Tell him a joke," Dick countered. They did. Rick laughed. Turns out a lot was going on in his brain.

Rigged up with a computer that allowed him to control the cursor by
touching a switch with the side of his head, Rick was finally able to
communicate. First words? "Go Bruins!" And after a high school
classmate was paralyzed in an accident and the school organized a
charity run for him, Rick pecked out, "Dad, I want to do that."

Yeah, right. How was Dick, a self-described "porker" who never ran
more than a mile at a time, going to push his son five miles? Still,
he tried. "Then it was me who was handicapped," Dick says. "I was sore for two weeks."

That day changed Rick's life. "Dad," he typed, "when we were running,
it felt like I wasn't disabled anymore!"

And that sentence changed Dick's life. He became obsessed with giving
Rick that feeling as often as he could. He got into such hard-belly
shape that he and Rick were ready to try the 1979 Boston Marathon.

"No way," Dick was told by a race official. The Hoyts weren't quite a
single runner, and they weren't quite a wheelchair competitor. For a
few years Dick and Rick just joined the massive field and ran anyway,
then they found a way to get into the race officially: In 1983 they
ran another marathon so fast they made the qualifying time for Boston
the following year.

Then somebody said, "Hey, Dick, why not a triathlon?"

How's a guy who never learned to swim and hadn't ridden a bike since
he was six going to haul his 110-pound kid through a triathlon? Still, Dick tried.

Now they've done 212 triathlons, including four grueling 15-hour
Ironmans in Hawaii. It must be a buzzkill to be a 25-year-old stud
getting passed by an old guy towing a grown man in a dinghy, don't you think?

Hey, Dick, why not see how you'd do on your own? "No way," he says.
Dick does it purely for "the awesome feeling" he gets seeing Rick with a cantaloupe smile as they run, swim and ride together.

This year, at ages 65 and 43, Dick and Rick finished their 24th Boston Marathon, in 5,083rd place out of more than 20,000 starters. Their best time? Two hours, 40 minutes in 1992 -- only 35 minutes off the world record, which, in case you don't keep track of these things, happens to be held by a guy who was not pushing another man in a wheelchair at the time.

"No question about it," Rick types. "My dad is the Father of the Century."

And Dick got something else out of all this too. Two years ago he had
a mild heart attack during a race. Doctors found that one of his
arteries was 95% clogged. "If you hadn't been in such great shape,"
one doctor told him, "you probably would've died 15 years ago."

So, in a way, Dick and Rick saved each other's life.

Rick, who has his own apartment (he gets home care) and works in
Boston, and Dick, retired from the military and living in Holland,
Mass., always find ways to be together. They give speeches around the
country and compete in some backbreaking race every weekend, including this Father's Day.

That night, Rick will buy his dad dinner, but the thing he really
wants to give him is a gift he can never buy.

"The thing I'd most like," Rick types, "is that my dad sit in the
chair and I push him once."

Sunday, September 10, 2006

What is your parenting style?

Finding parents who subscribe fully to one parenting approach is rare. That's OK, said Holly Schiffrin, a psychology professor at the University of Mary Washington and parent coach.

Parents should look at child development research and apply it to their family in a way that makes sense for them, she said.

"There's no one-size-fits-all approach to parenting," she said.

To continue reading this article click here

Wednesday, September 06, 2006

Purposeful - being on purpose, having a purpose, believing in a purpose, being of full purpose.

What is your purpose? What is it that drives you and keeps you focused?

I want my children to make a difference around the world and to get to visit all of it before the age of 20. This is my purpose. This is what drives me.

My personal and work purpose is to discover greatness in others. To support people in living a life that defies the predictable and lives according to what's possible.

I love my life. I love the universal assistance I enjoy in creating my life. There is always more to strive for but I make it a daily practise to give thanks and be grateful for my experiences right now, today.

As I sit here typing this the sun is shining, the temptation to sit in my garden for a few minutes grows stonger by the minute, so I will be obeying that :0)

I hear children in the background as school is back after the summer break and I get to work from home and enjoy the flexibility that this provides.

What's not to love :0)

Have a fabulous and blessed filled day