Getting More Confident 2 Be More Confident

2007-02-22T04:12:00.000-08:00

Constance became one of the first UK black judges, but if she had decided not to make an effort to change her past she may have become a product of her upbringing.

This story is a frigthenly honest account of someone who refused to be a statistic.

2007-02-09T00:08:00.000-08:00

Have you visited the Personal Growth Podcast Directory Recently? http://www.personalgrowthpodcastdirectory.com

There are now nearly 90 podcasts included anything from health and fitness to praystation (pray station.... I love it!). If you are looking for music to exercise too there's a great high energy podcast that you can download to your ipod and take with you next time you go on a power walk.

There are podcasts on food, leadership and yoga. Craig Harper will help you renovate your life from Australia. Anna Farmery will lead you on a leadership discussion in the UK and George Madiou will enlighten us about running an empowering network marketing business from America.

Here's the link again. http://www.personalgrowthpodcastdirectory.com

So if you haven't been over to find out what's new, take a visit and subscribe to some of the new links.

Of course we will always want to attract more podcasts to the Personal Growth Podcast Directory because I want to make it a huge resource for personal growth and self improvement information.

Enjoy. And if you know anyone out there creating great personal growth podcasts send them an email and tell them about the directory. What's in it for you? Well nothing but the knowledge that you helped me out and feeling good about it. If that's enough for you, then I thank you.

Enjoy your day, and include some passion into it.
Blessings
Diane

2007-01-22T03:28:00.000-08:00

They F**k You Up - How To Survive Family Life by James Oliver

If you are finding that you tend to attract the same type of relationships into your life or follow a similar destructive pattern to your parents then you may (or may not) be surprised to know that this is because of our upbringing. In fact clinical psychologist Oliver James has pinpointed it down to the way we are cared for in the first six years of life!

Through case histories and his own wide-ranging research, James reveals that childhood experience dominates our choice of friends and lovers, defines our interests and professional drive and even determines how prone we might be to emotional and mental problems.

The good news of course is the fact that if it's only a case of mindset then there is something we can do about it.

A great read, I recommend it.

2006-12-22T00:54:00.000-08:00

2006-12-02T09:34:00.000-08:00

This life coaching club for women is a fantastic resource for all women looking to be, do and have more in 2007.

2006-12-02T06:09:00.000-08:00

My life has been so full it has been amazing! But what I prefer is for it to be full but yet hardly anything to do, whilst enjoying unlimited wealth!

Asking for too much? Only time will tell I guess.

So today is Saturday and I am supposed to be a the Big Yellow Seminar with Ewan Chia and others, but as always I turned on my computer and got stuck here!

What I am stuck here doing is learning about podcasting. I have no clue what it is and that is just driving me crazy. So I am going to use all the information I have to learn everything I can and by the end of the day I will have created one!

2006-10-09T14:13:00.000-07:00

Bianca Ryan from America's Got Talent

Here is a young lady who doesn't need to worry about getting more confident!

2006-09-14T02:38:00.000-07:00

When teenagers decide upon merit.

My daughter shared something with me last night that left me completely moved to tears! She is now 15 and in Year 10 at High School. This is the start of her exams, in England known as GCSEs. One of topics she is studying is Business Studies (can't wait to make her Director of Marketing!!!). Somehow she ended up on the register of two different classes, so she was told to choose which one she wants to me in. She hangs out with a crowd of 4 other girls, two of them where in the other class, none of them are in the class she is currently in. She opted to stay in her current class for two reasons:

1. She was happy with the teacher she has
2. She realised that being in a class with her two friends will be distracting for her

Rather than make a decision based on where her friends are, she went for what would be best for her education.

Makes a mum proud :0)

2006-09-14T02:33:00.000-07:00

Does Your Child Love EMO?

Emo, it sounds like a cuddly toy that a child would love, but according to my teenaged daughter (15 today!) an emo is a teenager that listens to "emotional" music. Apparantely inherent with being an emo is the need to slit your wrist. Have you heard of anything so incredible?

When we are going to start teaching about the value of life at school, not religion (I am not bashing religion here in case you thought about leaving a comment :0) but about the "self" about the connection everyone has with themself. Know thyself. When you truly do you would never want to harm yourself in this way.

I send love and light to all teenagers struggling with who they are and searching for something that would give them great joy, if only they were willing to look within

2006-09-14T02:27:00.000-07:00

I know we love our children. I know we will do anything to make them happy. In fact if you ask a parent what they want for their child then the majority will say "to be happy". This is a story that is so amazing, true dedication to the love of our children.

"Strongest Dad in the World
From Sports Illustrated, By Rick Reilly]

I try to be a good father. Give my kids mulligans. Work nights to pay
for their text messaging. Take them to swimsuit shoots.

But compared with Dick Hoyt, I suck.

Eighty-five times he's pushed his disabled son, Rick, 26.2 miles in
marathons. Eight times he's not only pushed him 26.2 miles in a
wheelchair but also towed him 2.4 miles in a dinghy while swimming and pedaled him 112 miles in a seat on the handlebars -- all in the same day.

Dick's also pulled him cross-country skiing, taken him on his back
mountain climbing and once hauled him across the U.S. on a bike. Makes taking your son bowling look a little lame, right?

And what has Rick done for his father? Not much -- except save his life.

This love story began in Winchester, Mass., 43 years ago, when Rick
was strangled by the umbilical cord during birth, leaving him
brain-damaged and unable to control his limbs.

"He'll be a vegetable the rest of his life," Dick says doctors told
him and his wife, Judy, when Rick was nine months old. "Put him in an
institution."

But the Hoyts weren't buying it. They noticed the way Rick's eyes
followed them around the room. When Rick was 11 they took him to the
engineering department at Tufts University and asked if there was
anything to help the boy communicate. "No way," Dick says he was told. "There's nothing going on in his brain."

"Tell him a joke," Dick countered. They did. Rick laughed. Turns out a lot was going on in his brain.

Rigged up with a computer that allowed him to control the cursor by
touching a switch with the side of his head, Rick was finally able to
communicate. First words? "Go Bruins!" And after a high school
classmate was paralyzed in an accident and the school organized a
charity run for him, Rick pecked out, "Dad, I want to do that."

Yeah, right. How was Dick, a self-described "porker" who never ran
more than a mile at a time, going to push his son five miles? Still,
he tried. "Then it was me who was handicapped," Dick says. "I was sore for two weeks."

That day changed Rick's life. "Dad," he typed, "when we were running,
it felt like I wasn't disabled anymore!"

And that sentence changed Dick's life. He became obsessed with giving
Rick that feeling as often as he could. He got into such hard-belly
shape that he and Rick were ready to try the 1979 Boston Marathon.

"No way," Dick was told by a race official. The Hoyts weren't quite a
single runner, and they weren't quite a wheelchair competitor. For a
few years Dick and Rick just joined the massive field and ran anyway,
then they found a way to get into the race officially: In 1983 they
ran another marathon so fast they made the qualifying time for Boston
the following year.

Then somebody said, "Hey, Dick, why not a triathlon?"

How's a guy who never learned to swim and hadn't ridden a bike since
he was six going to haul his 110-pound kid through a triathlon? Still, Dick tried.

Now they've done 212 triathlons, including four grueling 15-hour
Ironmans in Hawaii. It must be a buzzkill to be a 25-year-old stud
getting passed by an old guy towing a grown man in a dinghy, don't you think?

Hey, Dick, why not see how you'd do on your own? "No way," he says.
Dick does it purely for "the awesome feeling" he gets seeing Rick with a cantaloupe smile as they run, swim and ride together.

This year, at ages 65 and 43, Dick and Rick finished their 24th Boston Marathon, in 5,083rd place out of more than 20,000 starters. Their best time? Two hours, 40 minutes in 1992 -- only 35 minutes off the world record, which, in case you don't keep track of these things, happens to be held by a guy who was not pushing another man in a wheelchair at the time.

"No question about it," Rick types. "My dad is the Father of the Century."

And Dick got something else out of all this too. Two years ago he had
a mild heart attack during a race. Doctors found that one of his
arteries was 95% clogged. "If you hadn't been in such great shape,"
one doctor told him, "you probably would've died 15 years ago."

So, in a way, Dick and Rick saved each other's life.

Rick, who has his own apartment (he gets home care) and works in
Boston, and Dick, retired from the military and living in Holland,
Mass., always find ways to be together. They give speeches around the
country and compete in some backbreaking race every weekend, including this Father's Day.

That night, Rick will buy his dad dinner, but the thing he really
wants to give him is a gift he can never buy.

"The thing I'd most like," Rick types, "is that my dad sit in the
chair and I push him once."

2006-09-10T10:19:00.000-07:00

What is your parenting style?

Finding parents who subscribe fully to one parenting approach is rare. That's OK, said Holly Schiffrin, a psychology professor at the University of Mary Washington and parent coach.

Parents should look at child development research and apply it to their family in a way that makes sense for them, she said.

"There's no one-size-fits-all approach to parenting," she said.

To continue reading this article click here

2006-09-06T04:54:00.000-07:00

Purposeful - being on purpose, having a purpose, believing in a purpose, being of full purpose.

What is your purpose? What is it that drives you and keeps you focused?

I want my children to make a difference around the world and to get to visit all of it before the age of 20. This is my purpose. This is what drives me.

My personal and work purpose is to discover greatness in others. To support people in living a life that defies the predictable and lives according to what's possible.

I love my life. I love the universal assistance I enjoy in creating my life. There is always more to strive for but I make it a daily practise to give thanks and be grateful for my experiences right now, today.

As I sit here typing this the sun is shining, the temptation to sit in my garden for a few minutes grows stonger by the minute, so I will be obeying that :0)

I hear children in the background as school is back after the summer break and I get to work from home and enjoy the flexibility that this provides.

What's not to love :0)

Have a fabulous and blessed filled day

2006-06-24T06:22:00.000-07:00

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2006-06-18T04:02:00.000-07:00

PARENT - Job Description

POSITION :

Mum, Mummy, Mom, Mommy, Mama, Ma

Dad, Daddy, Dada, Pa

JOB DESCRIPTION :

Long term, team players needed, for challenging permanent work in an, often chaotic environment.

Candidates must possess excellent communication and organizational skills and be willing to work variable hours, which will include evenings and weekends and frequent 24 hour shifts on call. Some overnight travel required, including trips to primitive camping sites on rainy weekends and endless sports tournaments in far away cities!

Travel expenses not reimbursed. Extensive courier duties also required.

RESPONSIBILITIES :

The rest of your life. Must be willing to be hated, at least
temporarily, until someone needs $5. Must be willing to bite tongue repeatedly. Also, must possess the physical stamina of a pack mule and be able to go from zero to 60 mph in three seconds flat in case, this time, the screams from the backyard are not someone just crying wolf.

Must be willing to face stimulating technical challenges, such as small gadget repair, mysteriously sluggish toilets and stuck zippers.

Must screen phone call s, maintain calendars and coordinate production of multiple homework projects. Must have ability to plan and organize social gatherings for clients of all ages and mental outlooks. Must be willing to be indispensable one minute, an embarrassment the next.

Must handle assembly and product safety testing of a half million cheap, plastic toys, and battery operated devices. Must always hope for the best but be prepared for the worst. Must assume final, complete accountability for the quality of the end product.

Responsibilities also include floor maintenance and janitorial work throughout the facility.

POSSIBILITY FOR ADVANCEMENT & PROMOTION :

None. Your job is to remain in the same position for years, without complaining, constantly retraining and updating your skills, so that those in your charge can ultimately surpass you

PREVIOUS EXPERIENCE :

None required unfortunately. On-the-job training offered on a

continually exhausting basis.

WAGES AND COMPENSATION :

Get this! You pay them! Offering frequent raises and bonuses. A balloon payment is due when they turn 18 because of the assumption that college will help them become financially independent. When you die, you give them whatever is left. The oddest thing about this
reverse -salary scheme is that you actually enjoy it and wish you could only do more.

BENEFITS :

While no health or dental insurance, no pension, no tuition
reimbursement, no paid holidays and no stock options are offered; this job supplies limitless opportunities for personal growth and free hugs for life if you play your cards right.

Forward this on to all the PARENTS you know, in appreciation for everything they do on a daily basis, letting them know they are appreciated for the fabulous job they do...

2006-06-07T07:45:00.000-07:00

The Power of Persuasion!

A few years ago I made the decision to reward my children financially for achieving high grades at school. My hope is that by the time the major exams come around (aged 16) they will be more interested in how much they can potentially have to spend than they will on being distracted by the opposite sex. Only time will tell!

The lesson behind this is - work hard and you will attract the reward you desire.

My daughter is now 14 years old and today when looking through my diary I came across something she had written in it for Monday 19th June 2006

"Robyn's report due today (better save up to giver her a £200 money reward)"

As she receives £20 for ever A grade she receives something tells me she is going for straight A's! It's money I am more than happy to part with :0)

2006-05-31T14:52:00.000-07:00

Heathside School, Surrey

I had the pleasure of talking to a group of year 10 students who were taking part in a business week. They listened to a speaker from Sony talk about interview skills and Proctor & Gamble talk about innovation.

I spoke to them about focus and goal setting, writing them down, keeping a journal, being committed to achieve.

I took part in two talks for 20 minutes including questions (and I really had to insist on someone asking me a question!). It was a fantastic afternoon and a reminder about why I really want my work to focus on young people.

They were so eager to talk about aspirations and visions for their life that I could have easily kept them going for 20 hours!

2006-05-31T13:55:00.000-07:00

Out of the mouth of babes!

If you want to know how you occur in the world. How people see you. Then asking questions is one of the best ways. The gold is in taking the answers and using them as a way of improving on life and as a way to acknowledge what you have achieved so far.

I decided to ask my children for their opinion of me and the following are the questions with answers from my eldest two aged 14 and 11 years old. The first answer before the fullstop are from my 14 year old daughter and answers after the full stop are my 11 year old son.

Q1) What are my strengths?
A1) Determination. A good mother and keeping my word

Q2) What are my weaknesses?
A2) Distracted. (my 11 year old son couldnt think of any)

Q3) What do you know you can count on me for?
Honest opinion. Always listening to what I have to say, helping me if I have a problem

Q4) What do I complain about the most?
A4) Chores not being done. Clothes on the floor

Q5) What am I best known for?
A5) Coaching teens. figuring out if we are lying

Q6) If you could add or change one thing about me what would it be?
A6) Nothing. Going out more

Q7) If I moved away tomorrow what would you miss the most?
A7) My mummy. You!

Q8) Is there anything I need training & development in?
A8) Being more active. Cant think of anything

Q9) Is there anything you haven't said to me that you would like to?
A9) Get off the laptop. Can I go into town with my friends when I am in year 8?

So what did I learn from that exercise? That I need to get out more. That my children need to see me out and about doing more. I tend to do most of my going out when they are with their dad! But we could probably do alot more together during the week. It's that whole work/home balance thing I suppose!

Hope you found that useful.
Diane

2006-05-24T12:17:00.000-07:00

It's been a little while!

I must apologise! I have been letting other things take me away from keeping you updated on everything there is to know about confidence and more importantly supporting your own confidence.

You can count on me to post on this blog at least once a week. I have a schedule now!

Please feel free to leave comments and let me know what you think. It is always good to know that somewhere out there in cyber space land is reading what I write!

Blessings
Diane

2006-05-24T12:15:00.000-07:00

Being confident is about loving life and wanting to live to your full potential.

Being confident is not about hiding from people, being confident is not about broken promises and being unwilling to try.

Being confident is about days out and nights in, short trips and long walks, big dreams and bigger goals.

Being confident is about being willing to try and making a mess, being willing to speak and having nothing to say, being willing to listen and knowing you are heard. Being confident is about loving, living and laughing harder and longer with each passing year.

When our children see, hear and live this message with their parents they are given lifelong tools and memories to cherish forever.

2006-05-17T04:41:00.000-07:00

Re-igniting Motivation

Have you ever set goals only to have forgotten all about your commitment to them within months or even weeks?

When you decide to work towards the goal of confidence, and you know you want to be more confident, then there will be times (anything from one day to one year!) when being confident can shove it and all you want to do is return to the emotions you find familiar – even if they do belong to the negative family of doubt, fear and low self-confidence.

The reason you will want to do this rather than increase your motivation and stick to your goal to be more confident is simply because it is familiar and easy. The expression “better the devil you know, than the devil you don’t” will become your motivation and a much more appealing one because you do not have to do anything to keep it going!

To read the full article visit http://www.gettingmoreconfident.com/Motivation.html

2006-05-17T02:17:00.000-07:00

Who wants to MEET a Millionaire Charity Event

I have received a fantastic response to my millionaire charity event (full details are available on http://www.squidoo.com/Inspirationalcharity/) and am looking forward to starting that process.

I decided rather than create a mini website i would use the tools that are already out there and choose Squidoo. My aim is to generate interest before bidding starts and I can gain alot of exposure this way. I am also considering something on myspace and perhaps blogger, but I don't know if it is worth having 3 sites all saying the same thing!

Please visit the site and if you think it is great rate me :0) I love the feedback! Also pass the url about and if you are able to mention it on your blog and/or website. The more people know about this the better. I want to raise alot of money for charity and provide the opportunity for someone to learn from an expert in the field they want to be successful in.

Oh! and if you know any millionaires please send them my way :0)

With love
Diane

2006-05-11T03:56:00.000-07:00

In self help people have created all kinds of acronyms as a way to describe something we want to overcome, or as a way to empower people. FEAR is my favourite

False, Experiences, Appearing, Real

There are many others! So now I have made up my own, it came to me the other day and I love it. The part of us that seems to have huge control is the EGO - it doesn't have to be that way just so you know - you can control it! You just need to learn how.

So I have come up with an acronym for EGO which is

Everyone's
Godless
Omen

It is everyone's because we all have one and your godless omen because it limits you (only to protect you mind) but there is a part of you which is bigger, your higher self, if you only take the time to listen. Perhaps I will blog more on the higher self, but in the meantime, I will enjoy feeling creative because I created something!!!

2006-05-10T10:25:00.000-07:00

What are you grateful for?

Take a minute and ask yourself that question. Today I have searched high and low for my purse (wallet) and can't find it anywhere! This has meant cancelling credit cards, debit cards, re-applying for driving license, not to mention the cash I had in it. So I was a bit peeved.

Add to that the fact that I have a leak I can't seem to stop (yes i know, get someone in then.... ) and stuff that needs "doing" that I never seem to get round to (yes, I know, get off myspace then....) and you can see why I was rather frustrated.

I went down the road of "there's always something going wrong". Now I know that if my thoughts stay on that it will always be that way. So I went into the garden, sat in the sun, and allowed the silence to comfort me.

And then the inner voice came and said "how lucky are you, sitting in your garden in the afternoon, when so many others are stuck in an office, maybe in a job they hate" and there was nothing to do but give thanks. For my house, for my garden, for being able to sit and be bathed by the sun. I give thanks.

2006-05-05T16:03:00.000-07:00

Teach your child self-discovery

Childhood years are the best times to learn. Somehow, a person’s comprehension is at its peak during childhood. Parents should take advantage of these learning years to ingrain the values of life in their children.

If you’re a parent, teach them positive habits so that they will know and see the beauty that life has to offer. Make them enthusiastic about life. Instill into their hearts and minds all the wonders and magnificence of being alive by living life to its fullest in a positive way.

There’s a startling difference between children learning through self-discovery, and children learning through self-discovery with proper guidance. The first things that children learn are usually the things that stay with them and mold formative years until they reach adulthood.

Fill your children with thoughts of self-importance, confidence, and a positive attitude so that there will be no room for negative thinking. More importantly, fill their world with laughter, love, and understanding. You‘ll never go wrong.

2006-05-02T13:11:00.000-07:00

2006-05-02T07:39:00.000-07:00

It is understood that relationships are vital to behavior change, and for children, their parents are the key. But the study was designed to identify what factors about the children themselves may be motivating them to desire a change.

Click Here to read the full article......

2006-05-02T07:35:00.000-07:00

"Experience tells you what to do; CONFIDENCE allows you to do it"
- Stan smith

2006-05-02T07:29:00.000-07:00

From Fear to Confidence Using Questions

Is it possible to move from fear to confidence using questions? Yes it is!

Confidence is the all-important armour jacket you wear to protect yourself from the events in life which may cause negativity and doubt.

Confidence enermy number 1 is fear. When you are afraid life becomes a never ending cycle of worry, frustration and doubt. The power of questions can help you to begin the journey of overcoming fear.

Schedule some quiet time, get a pen and some paper to hand and ask yourself the following question:

What is my biggest fear..... (about this person, this situation, this client)

What do I fear most..... about the future, about my life, about my children

And every time you give yourself an answer then ask yourself

and what do I fear about that?.... another answer..... and what do I fear about that..... another answer

Keep going until you really get down to where the fear is coming from. Here is an example:

What is my biggest fear about meeting new people

1. I may have nothing to say.
and what do I fear about that?

2. They may think I am boring
and what do I fear about that?

3. I will not make any friends/associations
and what do I fear about that?

4. I will end up alone in business and in life

Once you have your major fear (just keep asking the questions - and what do I fear about that until you feel as if you have gone as far as you can) you need to decide what it is you want instead. Fears are there to protect us and it is a good idea to acknowledge their contribution but recognise when it doesn't serve you. Ask yourself the questions:

What am I willing to do to overcome this fear?
Who can help me overcome this fear?
What will be the first action step I take to overcome this fear?

Know thyself is an age old saying that is still relevant today. Self-knowledge is the key to true freedom from restrictions. When you spend time looking at how you think, feel, react and behave you learn alot about where you are stopped in life. Then all there is to do is focus on what it is you want instead, what do you want to feel, who do you want to be, what do you want to have.

This process can take you 5 minutes or 5 hours, that is up to you, I just recommend you at least start! Just take one fear, ask yourself the questions and see what shows up.

Diane Corriette
http://www.inspirationalguidance.co.uk

2006-04-20T06:44:00.000-07:00

I know the bass player of this band (was married to him!). If you fancy a night out this will be a good one.

Do you love live music and the soulful sounds of Incognito, Earth Wind & Fire, Angie Stone, Chaka Khan, Jill Scott, Soul II Soul, Stevie Wonder, Erykah Badu, Faith Evans, Maxwell and other great soul artists?

Following the recent sell-out gig at the Battersea Barge, Soulcadelic will be performing tracks by these artists and many more on Wednesday 7th June 2006 at the Battersea Barge from 8.30 pm onwards.

Soulcadelic are:

Blu - vocals

Rebecca Bowden - vocals

Tara Leacock - vocals

Rebecca Balcombe - vocals

Graeme Airth - saxophone & flute

Michael Gabbay - keyboards

Derek Ho Hip - guitar

Roy Williamson - bass

David Charles - drums

Tickets cost £5 and are available in advance from band members, on the night at the door. Alternatively, you can book a table for dinner, in advance, by calling the Battersea Barge on 020 7498 0004 or emailing mail@batterseabarge.com. For more venue information and directions please visit www.batterseabarge.com. Doors open 7.30pm.

Battersea Barge

Nine Elms Lane (Behind the Fedex Building)

London SW8 5BP

Nearest tube, Vauxhall, exit 6

Buses: 44 and 344

Car parking: Plenty of car parking is available on side roads around the Fedex building

For more information about the band, and the gig, visit ............

www.soulcadelic.co.uk

2006-04-20T06:16:00.000-07:00

My Children are my biggest teachers

And this time it was my 11 year old son Ryan who actually confirmed everything I have been working on in the last 3 months in a single sentence!

In the car yesterday he said to me (out of the blue) "Mum, life for everyone is great right now, dad is having his CD produced by an agent and you are writing a book. Everything for our family is working out"

Even though I am no longer with his dad our life still has a huge impact on our son!

I added to that great comment that if it is great for us that means it can be great for him too, if we are doing what we want to do then so can he. He can do anything he wants to in life.

His answer....?

"cool!"

2006-04-18T11:50:00.000-07:00

Be More Confident And Enjoy Life - What you need is motivation

When you decide to work towards the goal of confidence and you know you want to be more confident there is a certain about of motivation that is needed to keep the dream alive!

I remember what it was like. I said I wanted to be more confident and the motivation was there to be more confident. But after a really exciting start when I feel ready to take on the world, a few weeks later I can't even be bothered to pick up a pen!

But I was so relieved when I found out that a large percentage of people are the same!

When you lose sight of why you started something - in this case getting more confident - it is easy to put it to one side. Even when you were 100% motivated to get going.

Before you know it life is back to the same ole, same ole. Nothing is improving, you are still worry about what people think of you (or whatever you do that keeps your confidence low) - confident you are not!

In fact sometimes life gets even worse, because now you are more aware of all the things in your life that are not working. You are more aware of the fact that your children are watching you behave in an apathetic way, and now they are coping you!

You say to them "go out and get some fresh air" and they reply "nah, can't be bothered!".

There is a way to solve this challenge though, there is a way to ensure that you are always motivated and ready to go, and when you are not.

What is that way? You acknowledge it is just your emotions messing with you, and you step over that and do what you need to!

So here are 3 great tips that you can do when you lose site of why you want to be more confident, lose motivation, and return to your old way of doing this:

1. Recognise that this will happen and accept it! That's right, just say to yourself that you are feeling the way you are and you love and approve of yourself anyway!

2. Then look at the goals you have set yourself and your next target. How close is your next target, hopefully you have not set them far apart, can you feel it, smell it, taste it! See yourself achieving the target and take joy in the reward you are giving yourself.

3. Begin to coach yourself. Be your own confidence coach and ask yourself the following questions:

What will my next target/goal bring me?
What will acheiving my next target/goal do for me, my family, and/or friends?
What kind of lifestyle will I be able to have?

Now call upon someone in your support group. If you have not set one up please consider doing this ASAP. Who will support you in achieving your goal of being confident? Ring them up. Let them know how you feel and talk to them about why being more confident is important to you. Hearing yourself out loud will re-confirm your commitment to yourself and increase your motivation. Then go out there and just do it!

2006-04-16T11:24:00.000-07:00

I CREATE REALITY

If you are really serious about getting more confident you may want to take a look at this site:

I CREATE REALITY

Even if you do not buy the ebook (although I highly recommend it!) the video that plays is fantastic and a wonderful reminder of how great we are!

Blessings

2006-04-16T11:09:00.000-07:00

How are you supporting your children to be more confident?

One of the biggest challenges as a parent is letting go and allowing our children to make their own mistakes. We will constantly "make them" play that instrument because it will be good for them or "force them" to wear that sweater because we feel a chill in the air. Or remind them "don't forget your school bag, don't forget your school kit, don't forget your ......." It's just endless!

How are children suppose to learn responsibility and develop confidence when we keep taking it from them. And Yes I know we love them, etc etc, no need for that discussion, but isn't part of loving them supporting them in getting more confident?

As a parent when you move towards getting more confident, you will find that you are happy to allow your children to be more confident and make their own decisions. This includes making their own mistakes, because this is the biggest tool we can provide our children.

This morning my son Ryan was heating a small croissant and decided it needed 30 seconds in the microwave!

I provided guidance by suggesting that this would be way too much time for one small croissant and 10 seconds would be more appropriate. He insisted that he likes them hot. At that point I decided to let go!

30 seconds later and I watched him eat a very hard croissant! I asked him what he could learn from this. He said that perhaps he could have placed it in for 10 seconds. Then if it was not hot enough, put it in again for a bit longer. A learning has taken place!

The main advantage to letting go is evident in my 14 year old daughter, when I make a suggestion or provide advice she will listen. This is because of all the times she didn't and things didn't quite go to plan (which of course is fine because that is a lesson in itself).

I am not advocating letting your children do something that may physically harm them, but little things like, whether they may need to carry a sweater with them, can make a world of difference to their feeling of being responsible for themselves and their life.

With blessings

Diane

2006-04-15T16:04:00.000-07:00

My biggest journey so far!

2006 is the year of big dreams for me and I am tackling two of my biggest challenges both at the same time and in the same year!

Finances
Weight

I never ever imagined that I would want to be a millionaire. I always thought that as long as I have enough to buy what I need that will do. But on my spiritual journey I have learnt that we all deserve prosperity, abundance and wealth! All of us! I have also released my limiting beliefs about rich people and realised that I can make a bigger contribution to charities and my community by being a millionaire. So I am embarking on that process. Mainly because I want to release my poverty consciousness and really believe I can do it. If I had to create a huge goal for myself this would be it!

My second goal, my weight, is more because of a promise I made to myself rather than not liking my body! Two years ago I promised myself that when I hit age 40 on the 5th November 2006 I would be the fittest and healthiest I have ever been!

Right now I am 5 1/2 stone over weight so I need to get a move on!!! My weight has never been an issue for me because I love and accept myself. However it is affecting my health and internal organs.

Being confident can happen no matter what you look like. People will say to be confident you also have to be slim but I don't agree at all!!! I do believe in being the right weight for my height because it is best for my health though.

So you can learn about my journey towards being 13 stone (which seems WAY TOO SKINNY for me! But which the charts say I "should be") through this blog and my journey towards becoming a millionaire in another blog which is http://www.passiveincome.typepad.com/imo

My goal to become a fit and healthy Inspirational Millionaire WILL HAPPEN in 2006! You can watch me or join me. The choice is yours.

With love D x
P.S. Words of encouragement are more than welcome!!!!!!!!!!

2006-04-13T11:07:00.000-07:00

What the Bleep?

Have you seen the dvd what the bleep do we (k)now? It is a bit of an eye opener and may shake your current perception of reality and possibility! I bought the book "The Little Book of Bleeps" which is a companion guide to the movie. Today I opened the book up to this page and instantly felt the need to share it as it relates to getting more confident.

"The average person considers their life boring or uninspiring because they've made little or no attempt to gain knowledge and information that will inspire them. They're so hypnotized by their environment - through the media, through television, through unattainable ideals of phyiscal appearance, beauty and valor that everybody struggles to become but cannot - that most people surrender and live their lives in mediocrity. And they may live those lives, and their souls, their desires, may never really rise to the surface. So they may want to be something else" Dr Joseph Dispenza

There is more to it but you can buy the book to read the rest :-) Dr Dispenza does say that we can go on to challenge this way of being, "the mediocrity of life" by asking ourselves a few simple questions about our purpose in life and why we are here.

From my experience I know that these questions start a snowball effect! It sent me questioning who I am and what I was doing with my life for a number of years! But it was worth going through it because now I live me for and I never do anything I don't enjoy!

2006-04-13T09:49:00.000-07:00

Being a role model in front of our children

I had the perfect experience of why getting more confident is important as a parent.

Yesterday I went out with my 7 year old son to buy chicken for our dinner the next day. As the man serving me went to place the meat in a bag one of the pieces of chicken fell out of his hands and dropped under the table they use to cut meat up, which is full of sawdust.

He then picked it up and placed it in the bag with the other pieces! I couldn't believe my eyes!!!

I told him I would not accept that and he would have to fulfill my order again. From the corner of my eye I could see my son watching me. At that moment I knew I was teaching him how to be more confident and I was calm but insistent that I would not accept this order (believe it or not they did think I should accept it as it was!!!!).

As he served me again he took the piece of chicken that had fallen on the ground and put it back in with all the other bits of chicken waiting to be sold.

As I walked out the shop I said to my son "there was no way we can buy anything that has dropped on their dirty floor" and he pulled a face and say "Yeah! And he put it back, so that means someone else is going to buy it!"

Now that situation could have gone another way, too afraid of "making a fuss" I could have accepted the order, left the shop and then moaned about this to a few friends. But of course my moaning would centre on how disgusting it was that a butcher would do that, and how he should not be allowed to sell meat if that is what they do, with a promise to ring environmental health (but never get round to doing it) and deciding to never shop there again.

Or I could have lost my temper when he insisted I accept the order, shout and curse, then walk out.

In the first example my son witnessed his mother being assertive and not accepting or tolerating something

In the second example my won would have witnessed a "victim" and learnt that even though stuff happens that we don't accept, we shouldn't talk about it in front of the person who did it, we must go away and moan about it to our friends!

In the third example my son would have learnt that the way of making your point or to object to anything you disagree with is to get angry, shout and curse, then leave.

Our children watch and learn from everything we do and in a quest to teach them how to be more confident it is imperative that we start by being confident.

Then the rest is easy!

2006-04-11T11:44:00.000-07:00

Diane Corriette Blog
http://www.dianecorriette.com

Want to know more about me?
I have my own blog which you can find at http://www.dianecorriette.com. I talk about me, alot! What I am going through, where I am on my journey towards becoming an Inspirational Millionare by the time I am 43 years old, and loads more.

So if you want to read about me then you know where to go.

2006-04-11T11:35:00.000-07:00

Success University
http://corrietted.successuniversity.com

If you are serious about being confident then you may want to take a look at this fantastic resource that can not only support you in your goals towards getting more confident but can also provide you with an opportunity to earn money if you choose to.

Even better, as this business works through introduction, if you join through my link then I have introduced you and you will get more than 110% of my energy to help you be successful. This is one of the great things about Success Universty. Not only does it support you in getting more confident but the only way for me to be successful at the business aspect of it is if I make you successful too. Your success helps mine.

You can build the business part time so there is no rush and little risk. Start with helping yourself be more confident first if you prefer by taking part in the courses they provide.

http://corrietted.successuniversity.com

2006-04-11T10:21:00.000-07:00

I choose what my life becomes because I choose
I can choose to face it or I can choose to run
I can choose to argue or I can choose to stay calm
I can choose to smile or I can choose to be angry
I can choose people who empower and uplift me or I can choose people who don’t
I can choose to be happy or I can choose to see everything as a problem
I can choose to learn from my mistakes or I can choose to play the victim
I can choose to take a risk, have a go, get up when knocked down or I can choose to hide
I choose what my life becomes because I choose
The decision is mine
I decide

2006-04-11T10:06:00.000-07:00

I always knew that being confident and working towards getting more confident had some scientific proof behind it and below is a brief paragraph for the 'Rational' amongst you, on the power of Transformation. Whilst I wouldn't use his words I get it!
Diane

The Biology of Belief Bruce H. Lipton, PhD

Though mass consciousness is currently imbued with the notion that genes control the character of our lives, the results of the Human Genome Project completely undermine the long held concept of genetic determinism. (see it isn't because of your genes that you are the way you are :-) )

Once thought to be in the domain of the genes, the control of health and behavior are now dynamically linked to the environment, and more importantly, our perception of the environment. (Oh, so what you are saying Dr Lipton is that it is all about the way we choose to look at something that counts, our perception... interesting... please go on)

Dr. Bruce Lipton, noted lecturer and cell biologist, will present exciting new information on the molecular mechanisms by which animals, from single cells to humans, transduce environmental stimuli into physiological and behavioural responses. (so it is about the way we intrepret events in our environment and respond to them with our behaviour and the way we look/stand.... I see)

The newly identified cellular mechanisms include master switches through which our thoughts, attitudes and beliefs create the conditions of our body and of our place in the world. (our thoughts, attitudes and beliefs create the way our body looks and feels and also our place in the world, so if my place in the world isn't great what you are saying is I created that.... ummm!)

These amazing advances provide a scientific foundation for the necessity of merging allopathic, complementary and spiritual healing modalities. Evolution of this molecular mechanism provides for human consciousness and contributes to our spiritual nature.
(so with all that said it is important to look at our spiritual nature and life as much as our physical one. I think Diane always goes on about that one :-) )

Bruce H. Lipton, Ph.D., is author of the best selling The Biology of Belief: Unleashing the Power of Consciousness, Matter and Miracles. As a scientist and lecturer, Bruce formerly served as an Associate Professor of Anatomy in the School of Medicine at the University of Wisconsin, where he participated in the medical curriculum as a lecturer in Cell Biology, Histology and Embryology. His laboratory research on muscular dystrophy focused on the biochemistry of cloned human stem cells. Subsequently, as a Fellow in Pathology at Stanford University's School of Medicine, his published research on cloned human cells revealed how perception controls behavior and gene activity. Bruce has taken his award-winning medical school lectures to the public and is currently a popular keynote speaker and workshop presenter on topics of conscious parenting and the science of complementary medicine. To learn more of Dr. Lipton, visit http://www.brucelipton.com/.

2006-04-11T09:53:00.000-07:00

Being confident and working towards getting more confident requires a commitment to step out and try new things, which is what I did when I first started investigating working online.

I have, for the last 5 months been recovering from a curved spine. Very painful! Walking was a real challenge and I have not been able to stand erect since this has happened. The one thing I have been able to do is sit..... and read!

As a self-confessed self-help junky I had a lot of reading material to catch up on, but it was one in particular that has made the biggest contribution to my life. As a life coach I am always looking at ways to develop my practice, so the training manual "How to get 95% of your clients from the internet, guaranteed!" sounded like an excellent idea.

The only thing was I hadn't given it much attention after arriving through the post.I picked up the first two dvd's and watched them, then I watched another bonus dvd about generating passive income. I have not got round to listening any further... why? Because since listening to the concept of passive income I have been busy putting together my own website http://www.gettingmoreconfident.com

By March after attending wealth generation seminars I realised that making money on line was only one of a number of ways to develop passive income and now I am investigating them all! Other ways include stocks and shares, property, and business.

What has this got to do with getting more confidence?

The main point is I started something that was new for me so just stepping out and trying this meant I had to be confident in myself.

So what have you done that required self confidence, providing an opportunity for you to become confident?

If the answer is, "not much" or "nothing" then I urge you to start living and think about what you are passionate about and would like to achieve. Small baby steps are advised here! But doing something small towards getting more confident is better than doing nothing at all!

Getting More Confident

2006-04-10T14:40:00.000-07:00

Welcome to the blog for http://www.gettingmoreconfident.com which I have called BEING CONFIDENT because that is how you will end up.

I will be posting smaller articles and areas of interest on this blog to support you in building self confidence and also to give you an opportunity to reply should you choose to.

Diane