Getting More Confident 2 Be More Confident

2007-02-22T04:12:00.000-08:00

Constance became one of the first UK black judges, but if she had decided not to make an effort to change her past she may have become a product of her upbringing.

This story is a frigthenly honest account of someone who refused to be a statistic.

2006-12-22T00:54:00.000-08:00

2007-01-22T03:28:00.000-08:00

They F**k You Up - How To Survive Family Life by James Oliver

If you are finding that you tend to attract the same type of relationships into your life or follow a similar destructive pattern to your parents then you may (or may not) be surprised to know that this is because of our upbringing. In fact clinical psychologist Oliver James has pinpointed it down to the way we are cared for in the first six years of life!

Through case histories and his own wide-ranging research, James reveals that childhood experience dominates our choice of friends and lovers, defines our interests and professional drive and even determines how prone we might be to emotional and mental problems.

The good news of course is the fact that if it's only a case of mindset then there is something we can do about it.

A great read, I recommend it.

2007-02-09T00:08:00.000-08:00

Have you visited the Personal Growth Podcast Directory Recently? http://www.personalgrowthpodcastdirectory.com

There are now nearly 90 podcasts included anything from health and fitness to praystation (pray station.... I love it!). If you are looking for music to exercise too there's a great high energy podcast that you can download to your ipod and take with you next time you go on a power walk.

There are podcasts on food, leadership and yoga. Craig Harper will help you renovate your life from Australia. Anna Farmery will lead you on a leadership discussion in the UK and George Madiou will enlighten us about running an empowering network marketing business from America.

Here's the link again. http://www.personalgrowthpodcastdirectory.com

So if you haven't been over to find out what's new, take a visit and subscribe to some of the new links.

Of course we will always want to attract more podcasts to the Personal Growth Podcast Directory because I want to make it a huge resource for personal growth and self improvement information.

Enjoy. And if you know anyone out there creating great personal growth podcasts send them an email and tell them about the directory. What's in it for you? Well nothing but the knowledge that you helped me out and feeling good about it. If that's enough for you, then I thank you.

Enjoy your day, and include some passion into it.
Blessings
Diane

2006-12-02T09:34:00.000-08:00

This life coaching club for women is a fantastic resource for all women looking to be, do and have more in 2007.

2006-12-02T06:09:00.000-08:00

My life has been so full it has been amazing! But what I prefer is for it to be full but yet hardly anything to do, whilst enjoying unlimited wealth!

Asking for too much? Only time will tell I guess.

So today is Saturday and I am supposed to be a the Big Yellow Seminar with Ewan Chia and others, but as always I turned on my computer and got stuck here!

What I am stuck here doing is learning about podcasting. I have no clue what it is and that is just driving me crazy. So I am going to use all the information I have to learn everything I can and by the end of the day I will have created one!

2006-10-09T14:13:00.000-07:00

Bianca Ryan from America's Got Talent

Here is a young lady who doesn't need to worry about getting more confident!

2006-09-14T02:38:00.000-07:00

When teenagers decide upon merit.

My daughter shared something with me last night that left me completely moved to tears! She is now 15 and in Year 10 at High School. This is the start of her exams, in England known as GCSEs. One of topics she is studying is Business Studies (can't wait to make her Director of Marketing!!!). Somehow she ended up on the register of two different classes, so she was told to choose which one she wants to me in. She hangs out with a crowd of 4 other girls, two of them where in the other class, none of them are in the class she is currently in. She opted to stay in her current class for two reasons:

1. She was happy with the teacher she has
2. She realised that being in a class with her two friends will be distracting for her

Rather than make a decision based on where her friends are, she went for what would be best for her education.

Makes a mum proud :0)

2006-09-14T02:33:00.000-07:00

Does Your Child Love EMO?

Emo, it sounds like a cuddly toy that a child would love, but according to my teenaged daughter (15 today!) an emo is a teenager that listens to "emotional" music. Apparantely inherent with being an emo is the need to slit your wrist. Have you heard of anything so incredible?

When we are going to start teaching about the value of life at school, not religion (I am not bashing religion here in case you thought about leaving a comment :0) but about the "self" about the connection everyone has with themself. Know thyself. When you truly do you would never want to harm yourself in this way.

I send love and light to all teenagers struggling with who they are and searching for something that would give them great joy, if only they were willing to look within

2006-09-14T02:27:00.000-07:00

I know we love our children. I know we will do anything to make them happy. In fact if you ask a parent what they want for their child then the majority will say "to be happy". This is a story that is so amazing, true dedication to the love of our children.

"Strongest Dad in the World
From Sports Illustrated, By Rick Reilly]

I try to be a good father. Give my kids mulligans. Work nights to pay
for their text messaging. Take them to swimsuit shoots.

But compared with Dick Hoyt, I suck.

Eighty-five times he's pushed his disabled son, Rick, 26.2 miles in
marathons. Eight times he's not only pushed him 26.2 miles in a
wheelchair but also towed him 2.4 miles in a dinghy while swimming and pedaled him 112 miles in a seat on the handlebars -- all in the same day.

Dick's also pulled him cross-country skiing, taken him on his back
mountain climbing and once hauled him across the U.S. on a bike. Makes taking your son bowling look a little lame, right?

And what has Rick done for his father? Not much -- except save his life.

This love story began in Winchester, Mass., 43 years ago, when Rick
was strangled by the umbilical cord during birth, leaving him
brain-damaged and unable to control his limbs.

"He'll be a vegetable the rest of his life," Dick says doctors told
him and his wife, Judy, when Rick was nine months old. "Put him in an
institution."

But the Hoyts weren't buying it. They noticed the way Rick's eyes
followed them around the room. When Rick was 11 they took him to the
engineering department at Tufts University and asked if there was
anything to help the boy communicate. "No way," Dick says he was told. "There's nothing going on in his brain."

"Tell him a joke," Dick countered. They did. Rick laughed. Turns out a lot was going on in his brain.

Rigged up with a computer that allowed him to control the cursor by
touching a switch with the side of his head, Rick was finally able to
communicate. First words? "Go Bruins!" And after a high school
classmate was paralyzed in an accident and the school organized a
charity run for him, Rick pecked out, "Dad, I want to do that."

Yeah, right. How was Dick, a self-described "porker" who never ran
more than a mile at a time, going to push his son five miles? Still,
he tried. "Then it was me who was handicapped," Dick says. "I was sore for two weeks."

That day changed Rick's life. "Dad," he typed, "when we were running,
it felt like I wasn't disabled anymore!"

And that sentence changed Dick's life. He became obsessed with giving
Rick that feeling as often as he could. He got into such hard-belly
shape that he and Rick were ready to try the 1979 Boston Marathon.

"No way," Dick was told by a race official. The Hoyts weren't quite a
single runner, and they weren't quite a wheelchair competitor. For a
few years Dick and Rick just joined the massive field and ran anyway,
then they found a way to get into the race officially: In 1983 they
ran another marathon so fast they made the qualifying time for Boston
the following year.

Then somebody said, "Hey, Dick, why not a triathlon?"

How's a guy who never learned to swim and hadn't ridden a bike since
he was six going to haul his 110-pound kid through a triathlon? Still, Dick tried.

Now they've done 212 triathlons, including four grueling 15-hour
Ironmans in Hawaii. It must be a buzzkill to be a 25-year-old stud
getting passed by an old guy towing a grown man in a dinghy, don't you think?

Hey, Dick, why not see how you'd do on your own? "No way," he says.
Dick does it purely for "the awesome feeling" he gets seeing Rick with a cantaloupe smile as they run, swim and ride together.

This year, at ages 65 and 43, Dick and Rick finished their 24th Boston Marathon, in 5,083rd place out of more than 20,000 starters. Their best time? Two hours, 40 minutes in 1992 -- only 35 minutes off the world record, which, in case you don't keep track of these things, happens to be held by a guy who was not pushing another man in a wheelchair at the time.

"No question about it," Rick types. "My dad is the Father of the Century."

And Dick got something else out of all this too. Two years ago he had
a mild heart attack during a race. Doctors found that one of his
arteries was 95% clogged. "If you hadn't been in such great shape,"
one doctor told him, "you probably would've died 15 years ago."

So, in a way, Dick and Rick saved each other's life.

Rick, who has his own apartment (he gets home care) and works in
Boston, and Dick, retired from the military and living in Holland,
Mass., always find ways to be together. They give speeches around the
country and compete in some backbreaking race every weekend, including this Father's Day.

That night, Rick will buy his dad dinner, but the thing he really
wants to give him is a gift he can never buy.

"The thing I'd most like," Rick types, "is that my dad sit in the
chair and I push him once."

2006-09-10T10:19:00.000-07:00

What is your parenting style?

Finding parents who subscribe fully to one parenting approach is rare. That's OK, said Holly Schiffrin, a psychology professor at the University of Mary Washington and parent coach.

Parents should look at child development research and apply it to their family in a way that makes sense for them, she said.

"There's no one-size-fits-all approach to parenting," she said.

To continue reading this article click here

2006-09-06T04:54:00.000-07:00

Purposeful - being on purpose, having a purpose, believing in a purpose, being of full purpose.

What is your purpose? What is it that drives you and keeps you focused?

I want my children to make a difference around the world and to get to visit all of it before the age of 20. This is my purpose. This is what drives me.

My personal and work purpose is to discover greatness in others. To support people in living a life that defies the predictable and lives according to what's possible.

I love my life. I love the universal assistance I enjoy in creating my life. There is always more to strive for but I make it a daily practise to give thanks and be grateful for my experiences right now, today.

As I sit here typing this the sun is shining, the temptation to sit in my garden for a few minutes grows stonger by the minute, so I will be obeying that :0)

I hear children in the background as school is back after the summer break and I get to work from home and enjoy the flexibility that this provides.

What's not to love :0)

Have a fabulous and blessed filled day

2006-06-24T06:22:00.000-07:00

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2006-06-18T04:02:00.000-07:00

PARENT - Job Description

POSITION :

Mum, Mummy, Mom, Mommy, Mama, Ma

Dad, Daddy, Dada, Pa

JOB DESCRIPTION :

Long term, team players needed, for challenging permanent work in an, often chaotic environment.

Candidates must possess excellent communication and organizational skills and be willing to work variable hours, which will include evenings and weekends and frequent 24 hour shifts on call. Some overnight travel required, including trips to primitive camping sites on rainy weekends and endless sports tournaments in far away cities!

Travel expenses not reimbursed. Extensive courier duties also required.

RESPONSIBILITIES :

The rest of your life. Must be willing to be hated, at least
temporarily, until someone needs $5. Must be willing to bite tongue repeatedly. Also, must possess the physical stamina of a pack mule and be able to go from zero to 60 mph in three seconds flat in case, this time, the screams from the backyard are not someone just crying wolf.

Must be willing to face stimulating technical challenges, such as small gadget repair, mysteriously sluggish toilets and stuck zippers.

Must screen phone call s, maintain calendars and coordinate production of multiple homework projects. Must have ability to plan and organize social gatherings for clients of all ages and mental outlooks. Must be willing to be indispensable one minute, an embarrassment the next.

Must handle assembly and product safety testing of a half million cheap, plastic toys, and battery operated devices. Must always hope for the best but be prepared for the worst. Must assume final, complete accountability for the quality of the end product.

Responsibilities also include floor maintenance and janitorial work throughout the facility.

POSSIBILITY FOR ADVANCEMENT & PROMOTION :

None. Your job is to remain in the same position for years, without complaining, constantly retraining and updating your skills, so that those in your charge can ultimately surpass you

PREVIOUS EXPERIENCE :

None required unfortunately. On-the-job training offered on a

continually exhausting basis.

WAGES AND COMPENSATION :

Get this! You pay them! Offering frequent raises and bonuses. A balloon payment is due when they turn 18 because of the assumption that college will help them become financially independent. When you die, you give them whatever is left. The oddest thing about this
reverse -salary scheme is that you actually enjoy it and wish you could only do more.

BENEFITS :

While no health or dental insurance, no pension, no tuition
reimbursement, no paid holidays and no stock options are offered; this job supplies limitless opportunities for personal growth and free hugs for life if you play your cards right.

Forward this on to all the PARENTS you know, in appreciation for everything they do on a daily basis, letting them know they are appreciated for the fabulous job they do...

2006-06-07T07:45:00.000-07:00

The Power of Persuasion!

A few years ago I made the decision to reward my children financially for achieving high grades at school. My hope is that by the time the major exams come around (aged 16) they will be more interested in how much they can potentially have to spend than they will on being distracted by the opposite sex. Only time will tell!

The lesson behind this is - work hard and you will attract the reward you desire.

My daughter is now 14 years old and today when looking through my diary I came across something she had written in it for Monday 19th June 2006

"Robyn's report due today (better save up to giver her a £200 money reward)"

As she receives £20 for ever A grade she receives something tells me she is going for straight A's! It's money I am more than happy to part with :0)

2006-05-31T14:52:00.000-07:00

Heathside School, Surrey

I had the pleasure of talking to a group of year 10 students who were taking part in a business week. They listened to a speaker from Sony talk about interview skills and Proctor & Gamble talk about innovation.

I spoke to them about focus and goal setting, writing them down, keeping a journal, being committed to achieve.

I took part in two talks for 20 minutes including questions (and I really had to insist on someone asking me a question!). It was a fantastic afternoon and a reminder about why I really want my work to focus on young people.

They were so eager to talk about aspirations and visions for their life that I could have easily kept them going for 20 hours!

2006-05-31T13:55:00.000-07:00

Out of the mouth of babes!

If you want to know how you occur in the world. How people see you. Then asking questions is one of the best ways. The gold is in taking the answers and using them as a way of improving on life and as a way to acknowledge what you have achieved so far.

I decided to ask my children for their opinion of me and the following are the questions with answers from my eldest two aged 14 and 11 years old. The first answer before the fullstop are from my 14 year old daughter and answers after the full stop are my 11 year old son.

Q1) What are my strengths?
A1) Determination. A good mother and keeping my word

Q2) What are my weaknesses?
A2) Distracted. (my 11 year old son couldnt think of any)

Q3) What do you know you can count on me for?
Honest opinion. Always listening to what I have to say, helping me if I have a problem

Q4) What do I complain about the most?
A4) Chores not being done. Clothes on the floor

Q5) What am I best known for?
A5) Coaching teens. figuring out if we are lying

Q6) If you could add or change one thing about me what would it be?
A6) Nothing. Going out more

Q7) If I moved away tomorrow what would you miss the most?
A7) My mummy. You!

Q8) Is there anything I need training & development in?
A8) Being more active. Cant think of anything

Q9) Is there anything you haven't said to me that you would like to?
A9) Get off the laptop. Can I go into town with my friends when I am in year 8?

So what did I learn from that exercise? That I need to get out more. That my children need to see me out and about doing more. I tend to do most of my going out when they are with their dad! But we could probably do alot more together during the week. It's that whole work/home balance thing I suppose!

Hope you found that useful.
Diane

2006-05-24T12:17:00.000-07:00

It's been a little while!

I must apologise! I have been letting other things take me away from keeping you updated on everything there is to know about confidence and more importantly supporting your own confidence.

You can count on me to post on this blog at least once a week. I have a schedule now!

Please feel free to leave comments and let me know what you think. It is always good to know that somewhere out there in cyber space land is reading what I write!

Blessings
Diane

2006-05-24T12:15:00.000-07:00

Being confident is about loving life and wanting to live to your full potential.

Being confident is not about hiding from people, being confident is not about broken promises and being unwilling to try.

Being confident is about days out and nights in, short trips and long walks, big dreams and bigger goals.

Being confident is about being willing to try and making a mess, being willing to speak and having nothing to say, being willing to listen and knowing you are heard. Being confident is about loving, living and laughing harder and longer with each passing year.

When our children see, hear and live this message with their parents they are given lifelong tools and memories to cherish forever.

2006-05-17T04:41:00.000-07:00

Re-igniting Motivation

Have you ever set goals only to have forgotten all about your commitment to them within months or even weeks?

When you decide to work towards the goal of confidence, and you know you want to be more confident, then there will be times (anything from one day to one year!) when being confident can shove it and all you want to do is return to the emotions you find familiar – even if they do belong to the negative family of doubt, fear and low self-confidence.

The reason you will want to do this rather than increase your motivation and stick to your goal to be more confident is simply because it is familiar and easy. The expression “better the devil you know, than the devil you don’t” will become your motivation and a much more appealing one because you do not have to do anything to keep it going!

To read the full article visit http://www.gettingmoreconfident.com/Motivation.html

2006-05-17T02:17:00.000-07:00

Who wants to MEET a Millionaire Charity Event

I have received a fantastic response to my millionaire charity event (full details are available on http://www.squidoo.com/Inspirationalcharity/) and am looking forward to starting that process.

I decided rather than create a mini website i would use the tools that are already out there and choose Squidoo. My aim is to generate interest before bidding starts and I can gain alot of exposure this way. I am also considering something on myspace and perhaps blogger, but I don't know if it is worth having 3 sites all saying the same thing!

Please visit the site and if you think it is great rate me :0) I love the feedback! Also pass the url about and if you are able to mention it on your blog and/or website. The more people know about this the better. I want to raise alot of money for charity and provide the opportunity for someone to learn from an expert in the field they want to be successful in.

Oh! and if you know any millionaires please send them my way :0)

With love
Diane

2006-05-11T03:56:00.000-07:00

In self help people have created all kinds of acronyms as a way to describe something we want to overcome, or as a way to empower people. FEAR is my favourite

False, Experiences, Appearing, Real

There are many others! So now I have made up my own, it came to me the other day and I love it. The part of us that seems to have huge control is the EGO - it doesn't have to be that way just so you know - you can control it! You just need to learn how.

So I have come up with an acronym for EGO which is

Everyone's
Godless
Omen

It is everyone's because we all have one and your godless omen because it limits you (only to protect you mind) but there is a part of you which is bigger, your higher self, if you only take the time to listen. Perhaps I will blog more on the higher self, but in the meantime, I will enjoy feeling creative because I created something!!!

2006-05-10T10:25:00.000-07:00

What are you grateful for?

Take a minute and ask yourself that question. Today I have searched high and low for my purse (wallet) and can't find it anywhere! This has meant cancelling credit cards, debit cards, re-applying for driving license, not to mention the cash I had in it. So I was a bit peeved.

Add to that the fact that I have a leak I can't seem to stop (yes i know, get someone in then.... ) and stuff that needs "doing" that I never seem to get round to (yes, I know, get off myspace then....) and you can see why I was rather frustrated.

I went down the road of "there's always something going wrong". Now I know that if my thoughts stay on that it will always be that way. So I went into the garden, sat in the sun, and allowed the silence to comfort me.

And then the inner voice came and said "how lucky are you, sitting in your garden in the afternoon, when so many others are stuck in an office, maybe in a job they hate" and there was nothing to do but give thanks. For my house, for my garden, for being able to sit and be bathed by the sun. I give thanks.

2006-05-05T16:03:00.000-07:00

Teach your child self-discovery

Childhood years are the best times to learn. Somehow, a person’s comprehension is at its peak during childhood. Parents should take advantage of these learning years to ingrain the values of life in their children.

If you’re a parent, teach them positive habits so that they will know and see the beauty that life has to offer. Make them enthusiastic about life. Instill into their hearts and minds all the wonders and magnificence of being alive by living life to its fullest in a positive way.

There’s a startling difference between children learning through self-discovery, and children learning through self-discovery with proper guidance. The first things that children learn are usually the things that stay with them and mold formative years until they reach adulthood.

Fill your children with thoughts of self-importance, confidence, and a positive attitude so that there will be no room for negative thinking. More importantly, fill their world with laughter, love, and understanding. You‘ll never go wrong.

2006-05-02T13:11:00.000-07:00